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Personal Development- Learning to Say "no" to Improve your Life
In the Western educational system we are taught the 3 "Rs". Reading, Writing and Arithmetic? (in old American slang, ‘reading, riting, and rithmatic')
Not at all.
The three Rs are three rules of life you are taught from the first few seconds of school. 1. Be on time, 2. Follow orders, and 3. Love boring repetitional work.
The sad thing about this is the correlation it produces in society, and that is, "do not say ‘no'. To develop personally, having been taught otherwise, means learning how to say ‘no'
The Hippie Phenomenon
During the late 1960s in the United States, and parts of Europe, saw the rise of a certain segment of young people who just refused to follow the norms.
They changed their appearance, their way of living, and thinking.
Basically they were saying ‘no' to the status quo, and to the ‘establishment'.
Their movement carries on today as New Age thinking and acting, with proactive involvement in all the aspects that effect everyone's life.
The Green political movement is a statement of saying ‘no', and even in the US, where the real 3 Rs are now firmly rooted in the public's group consciousness; there is a tendency to keep saying ‘no'.
Why It's Important to Say "no" in Your Life
Being ‘programmed' to say yes can leave you doing things which are often against your personal development. You need to question all ‘yes' answers in your life.
You need to ask, "is it me who is saying ‘yes' here, or am I following the suggestions of the advertising
agency. Is it right to sit on the couch and eat potato chips, ice-cream and watch programs which 100% predictable plots and endings?"
It is important to examine yourself, your motives, and see who is saying yes or no.
If its not you, and it is the programmer of one sort or another, you must say ‘no' before you have had time to see what are the consequences of agreeing.
Learning to Think Before You Speak
As is human nature, when we are acting habitually, we often speak before we think, and agree before we think. We react in a predictable way.
The various forecasting companies dealing with public opinion know this fact, and build it into their mathematical models and predictive conclusions.
To avoid being like a robot or zombie, start thinking before you speak.
When someone asks you a question of substance, you might think to yourself, "why did he ask me that? What does he want from me? Why was I asked?"
Even a few seconds of thought before responding will give you the edge, as you have left the area of predictability. You can consider the question, and respond after thinking…not automatically.
Learning How to Say ‘no'
The best way to learn to say ‘no' is to not be so ready to say ‘yes'. You should always be polite in your response, but to say ‘yes' you must think does the request carry any of the essential requirements:
• By saying yes am I furthering my personal development?
• By saying yes do I get some positive reinforcement? (reward)
• By saying yes am compromising my dignity in any way?
• By saying yes am I betraying important loyalties?
• By saying yes do I advance myself in a positive way?
There are other criteria, but the idea is to fight your programming, and ask yourself by agreement what the consequences are? Learn to say ‘no', and you will see more coming to you than going from you.
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I am committed full-time to preaching the Gospel of Jesus Christ while ministering to people's physical needs. I have no employment income or other regular sources of revenue to support myself, let alone my ministry. I don't serve for financial gain or fame; I serve in spite of my own need because of my deep love for Jesus Christ. I know for me as a missionary I need around $350 USD per month to meet my basic needs. That's where you come in! Would you take up the challenge to help the ministry God has entrusted me with? I am able to accept on-line donations and recurring, automatic monthly donations can be donated through my blog or feel free to get in contact with me. God bless you and I am praying for you. Thanks for partnering with me and with what God is doing in my life. Master?s Commission was established in 1984 when volunteers committed one year to learning principles of leadership, self-discipline, moral ethics, and personal integrity, and to the responsibility for serving their local community, country, and the world.
Since its beginning, Master?s Commission has effectively trained thousands of young adults and has expanded to cities throughout the United States and Canada with several international affiliates.
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With collaborative partnerships with local churches and a large variety of social assistance programs, Master?s Commission has been able to design ?on-location classrooms? where leadership training takes on a whole new meaning.
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How should I reply to those who ask "So what do you all day??"?
I get a little irritated when am asked this. I think this question is not in good etiquette and a sensible/wise person would either word it differently or not ask because they just understand what it takes to live a day. I live alone and I am not sure what people are thinking, what their assumptions or beliefs are, and if they are jealous or doubtful about something. I have no clue what's behind the words, but it doesn't feel right when they ask me in such a manner. Sometimes it even sounds sarcastic. I find the question very funny. I do what everyone does in their day. Just because I am not married with kids, does not mean I have nothing to do. I have my housework, my cooking, my errands, my home projects, my career, my other pursuits be it personal development, learning skills, or volunteer work, my family and friends that I keep in touch with etc etc. But do I really need to explain all this in detail as a list to someone who asks me what I do all day? How can I reply appropriately to such people in a short way. Thanks guys.
Typo in the q. sorry. I meant "what do you do all day". "What do you do" would be different and implies what I do for a living. But the former is awkward. Your answers got a smile to my face..thanks guys :-) Golden, handing a list is funny! ha! Right guys, I don't want to actually rattle off a list. Also I think some people fail to understand that singles have more worry and responsibility because there's no one to share work with and no safety net to fall back on. There's worry about safety and security and more emotional reserves that are needed. Granted, those with families also have big responsibilities, but for singles, it's a whole other deal. They have enough to deal with too. Someone who has never been alone, might not understand.
haha.. good ones guys :-) yes, I could bore them to death. Also, I think some people don't like to be alone. I love my solitude and the peace that's around.
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I am quite fond of my teacher, is this normal?
Hi. Well, I'm in yr 8 and I have this PDL (Personal Development Learning) teacher. If I'm totally honest, she can get a bit stressy sometimes like when people are talking or distracting, and I don't think most of my class like her, but I do, and I think she's very nice. I'm definitely not a lesbian or anything, it's just a little obsession I have, like I have had other obsessions with different people before, e.g. Cheryl Cole, one of my other teachers, abba, actors, etc. I know I sound wierd and everything, liking a TEACHER, but I can't help what I feel. I just want her to notice me more, I've tried harder in my work, because she puts in my book that I should underline headings, and my presentation lets my grade down, so I'm just hoping that she notices that. But I would really like some advice, I mean, is this normal, I have searched on the web and have seen other people's problems like this, so I know I'm not the only one.
My friend said she was going to tell my teacher that she's my favourite, but I kept denying it, secretly inside I wanted her to tell her, but she didn't :( I'm not going to mention any names but after the lesson, the teacher was going to the staff room, and she said to my friend '***** good lesson' and I was getting quite jealous, because she randomly went to her just because my friend sometimes speaks to her, I don't really have the guts to talk to her in a full conversation. I'm the quiet, 'good' student in the class, so everyone thinks. Also, last friday, on the way home, i said to my friend that i wanted to go to level 4 [where my teacher teaches] so we did, and it was the long way home, but i saw my teacher, and before, I wanted to say hi to her, but at that moment I was just to excited, and she was right behind us, so i think she might have an idea that i like her in some way. I just want to talk to her and to notice me more, I make up conversations in my head, and situations.
I know it's quite long, but I would appreciate it if anyone could give me any advice on what I could say to her, or what i should to. is it normal?
Thanks, Emma x
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