Motivation Improvement

Why are men expected to change, alter and put effort into attracting women, yet women won't do like wise?
They won't accept men such as nice ones for who and how they are in their personality and characteristics, and men are expected to always be the ones to put in to get out - put all the study, preparation, work and effect into attracting, approaching and asking asking out a woman. Particulary mentally and emotionally we're expected to change our personality to suit what matches/is compatible to their strict critreria, asessment and attitude. Why is it we always have to be the ones to ask them out/and or chase them, not both ways, and alter, change our lifestyle, personality? Although I suppose in history, it wasn't regarded as lady like for a woman to "chase" (pursue) men and ask them out, let alone propose marriage to them. We're not all naturally or are the same as those who are called/regarded as: confident, suave, charismatic, charming, adventurous, daring, extroverted, macho, egotistical. Men have far more interest in women, than women will ever have in men, they're content enough with they're defined worth of how many friends they have. Women could probably live without men except usually where spatial ability comes in handy for building, constucting and maintaining social infrastructure, navigation/orienteering, and operation of society running smoothly where spatial ability is required. (Not intented as sexist comment by the way, I did do a little Gender Studies at Uni and have bought quite a number of Self Help/Motivation/Improvement/Relationship/Psychology/Sociology related books over the past several years) They wouldn't even miss us. Like a sticker on the back window of a woman's car I remember once seeing: "Husband and Dog Missing - Reward for Dog" I spent ages being a romance writer and am seriosuly considering not contiuning/completing what I had left to do, and just destroying it, having nothing to do with women, and be content with the environment, nature if not animals too. I was preparing to write one of the best statements a man could write about a woman - particularly in a romantic sense. Now I'm wondering whether it's worth it at all. At least a dog will show you unconditional love and will be by your side, and think the world of you, without you having/needing/being required to drastically change yourself and your personality from say a so called "S.N.A.G." or "nice" type of man to a macho, egotistical, smug, thinks he Mr cool and terrific, alpha male "king pin" bad guy to be eligible and qaulify to date and be involved/a part in relationships with women. A cat will probably only hang around to be fed, but they'll let you pat them, brush their coat (provided their in a good mood and temperament) and pets are said to be beneficial to people. I don't know if some other men out there agree, but if it's essential and necessary that a man has to change, alter his personality, characteristics, then what has the world and society come to, and what's the point, if a woman won't show you with acceptance that you have a lot of worth as you are, regardless of if say for instance you don't know a lot of people (so called "social worth" rubbish) or your not the same, or necessarily the same, similar to other people and or have a different personality in particular and or interest, beliefs, values to what they do, even if your introverted? I'm not saying/asking this to be awful, but do any men out there think women or some women can be if not are picky, fussy and too particular about what they want and look for? Oh yeah, a final mention, ladies what do you think of the two following online services for men to learn how to attract women? (Although I'm risking the fact other men will discover these sites) www.guygetsgirl.com www.themodernman.com Sorry if I sounded like I was ranting and raving. I acknowledge women spend a lot of time getting ready to look good and most are presentable when they go out. Take that "Beauty and the Geek" TV Series for instance. Although I'm no good at maths and at times I did particpate in some sport when growing up. I acknowledge women spend a lot of time getting ready to look good and most are presentable when they go out. Take that "Beauty and the Geek" TV Series for instance. Although I'm no good at maths and at times I did participate in some sport when growing up.

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