Low Self Confidence

What traits does a woman have who is a challenge to a man?
My super-attractive and successful boyfriend and I have been together 6 months. We're long distance, and I've been so afraid of him losing interest, that I've put a great deal of work into initiating contact, (every other day I text him first - flirty messages or sincere appreciation for something he has helped me with) asking him for a shirt of his to wear to bed, complimenting him, etc. We're both older (42 and 34), and he's always telling me how great I am, but that I do not give myself enough credit. He has been chatting with other women lately - I found him on the site where we met because my counselor told me he shows signs of a cheating guy, and suggested I look online. I confronted him, and he said he is talking to 3 girls in 3 states but that he hasn't met them. I suggested we have the option to see other people if we want- I think he's doing it anyway, so he agreed. He keeps hinting that he likes to "earn" someone's affection, and that I need to EXPECT that he wants to stay with me, only have eyes for me, and that he will treat me well. I finally see now what he's saying. Basically, he's saying that all the things he thinks are so great about me are diminished by my low self-confidence. So... How can I be more challenging to him? How do I show him that I EXPECT him to come to see me, to call me? He never initiates coming to see me. He always says for me to let him know when I want to see him again and he will make it happen, which is very confusing to me...

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I have really low self-confidence, what should I do?
I'm 13 and in 7th grade, I have pretty blonde hair and gorgeous blue eyes. I'm also a cheerleader, and I';m confident at cheer and stuff, but I just don't feel pretty. All of my friends say that I look like a model i'm that pretty, and boys say i'm hot all the time, i just don't feel like i'm actually pretty, even though I look it. I don't like to except compliments either, like if someon3e says i'm pretty, I say "No, your pretty" and stuff like that. Any confidence tips would be great!

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I feel like as if my friends don't have any respect for me?
My friends and I are a total of 7 girls. There are 2 of them that I feel like as if they don't respect me, and they treat me like as if I don't have feelings. I'll be calling them APG and SAC. First I'll be talking about APG. We were friends since 5th grade, and now we're in 8th. But ever since Sept. 2011, I'm beginning to seriously dislike her. I have extremely low self confidence, and I always feel like as if I'm ugly. APG just makes it so much worse by calling me "big nose" and clown hair". Then she tells me she's just kidding. I still take it as a hurtful insult, I don't know why. I tell her that I don't like it when she calls me these things, yet she still does it to this day. I also have APG nearly always leaving me behind. APG, SAC, and I all have science class together, so I sometimes ask APG to wait next to me while I'm getting my stuff from my locker. She'd stay a minute, and all of a sudden she goes to SAC, and then while I'm still clearly struggling with my books, they'd go off together to science class leaving me alone. And in science class, all three of us sit extremely close to each other giving easy access to talking to each other whenever we're doing nothing. SAC and APG both ignore me, and I can clearly hear them talking and laughing through the whole period. If they talk to me, they need something. Speaking of that, more than half the time they talk to me (not just in science) they need help! All I hear is Marla, what was the homework? Marla, can you open my locker? Marla, can you wait for me? Marla, can I borrow a pencil? Marla, did you do your homework? Marla, can I copy what you did? Marla, can you hold my books? Marla, can you give me a ride home? I always say yes, because I'm being nice to them, but lately I've been refusing anything they ask. And when science class ends, APG and SAC leave me behind. They simply walk out the door together, they don't wait for me, don't say a word to me, like as if I don't exist. Yesterday, APG needed to print out something that was on her USB drive, I just said no. She kept begging me but I refused. Whenever I need something, they don't do it and don't care. Another thing that bothers me about APG is that she's just plain mean to me. An example would be when APG had made muffins in her Life Skills class. I had Life Skills in Marking Period 1. She had it in Marking Period 2. So, I had already made them. I also got a copy of the recipe, and made them at home. When I made them at home, I gave one to APG, because she wanted one. When I saw APG come out of Life Skills class holding a plate full of muffins, I asked (as a joke, I didn't really want one) why she doesn't give me one, because I saw she was giving everyone else a muffin. In a mean way she says to me no because I never gave her one. I reminded her of the time she came over to my house and I gave her one. She just came up with the excuse "they were homemade". I honestly find that the stupidest excuse I've ever heard. Because of my uncontrollable moodiness, I got angry at her, and when she asked me for a copy of the recipe, right after being mean to me, I said no. Alright, time to talk about SAC. She blames everything on me and gets mad at me when I didn't do a thing to her. It was just yesterday when she just literally SCREAMED at me to not come near her. I didn't even touch her or say a word to her and she randomly bursts out at me out of nowhere. One time, a couple months ago at lunch I was sitting between SAC and my other friend. I don't know how but my friend managed to get pasta sauce onto my jeans and backpack (not a lot though). It was by mistake, so I didn't get mad at her and I simply cleaned off the sauce. That's when I noticed that a little sauce got onto SAC's jeans. When I told her that some got on her, she yelled at me, got angry at me, and didn't talk to me for the rest of the day and the next day. The next day at lunch APG asked SAC why she isn't talking to me. When SAC pointed to me, I - out of frustration - just crushed the sandwich I was holding in my hand, said that it wasn't me that did it. Then SAC says that it was a joke and she was never mad at me. I don't see what's funny. It isn't a joke to me at all. I didn't talk to her, or anybody, for the rest of the day. And just like APG, SAC is always leaving me behind. And she judges me all the time, especially since I love Gaga. Yesterday with an attitude type of way, she asks me "Who doesn't judge you?". The sad thing to me is that nearly everyone judges me on who I am. I don't know if I should stay as their friends, or find true friends. There are two girls from our group actually, that feels the same way about APG and SAC, especially APG. Today we were talking about what is bothering us, and the topic of APG and SAC came up. A -nd it turns out there's a lot in common between us three. I don't 'know what to do with APG and SAC. They're unavoidable. I'm sorry I wrote a lot. :( I didn't mean to, I just forgot what I was doing and kept typing and typing

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