How to Gain Confidence
Everybody want to live the life of their dreams. Some people feel that they are really far from their ideal picture of the dream-life while others feel that they are pretty close and still closing in.
To create and live the life you want it's important to gain confidence in the areas of your life that will get you there. You may have some really high ambitions and resources but without the confidence to meet your goals it is going to be challenging to follow through because you cannot do what we need to seize the things that rightfully belong to us and the future that we know that we deserve.
With confidence you'll get:
- The respect that you deserve because other people will acknowledge you
- Less difficult to contact new people
- Prepared to new situations rather then intimidated by them.
When you lose your self-confidence, or you find that you do not have the confidence you need to benefitof the situation you're in, you can feel alone and isolated. Feelings of low self-confidence can make one feel worthless or as though they are not worthy of the possibilities for them. When you suffer from low self-confidence, it is important that you do whatever you can to change it. There are a number of ways that you can change your confidence levels over an extended time period.
Some techniques to gain confidence include:
- Exercising More - When you are healthier and feel better about the way you look, confidence will follow. The more you exercise the more fit you will become, and some of the possible causes of low self-confidence will be eliminated.
- Fake It - By faking self-confidence and forcing yourself to act confident even when you are terrified inside, you will quickly become used to the experience of acting confident in public and the emotions/anxiety that goes along with it.
- Write Down the Positive - Often times low self-confidence is due to harmed/damaged self-esteem. Part of that comes from focusing on all that may go wrong in any situation. Focusing on the negative can make you feel worse about yourself and less hopeful for the future. Instead, try to change your approach by writing down all of the positives that come out of every situation, so you can see on paper all of the things that you haveaccomplished.
By following these bullet points you'll boost your physiology, mindset and language pattern and will get a completely different outcome. That will gain you confidence!
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When i say "Confidence".... What comes to your mind ?
Edit - Vaishali.. Thank you for pointing out my mistake. I'd be so glad if you correct it. Also answer me too if possible :)
Edit - J.Sangeeth.. Yes its me
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Why I wasn't enjoying kiss with him, was it he or some problem lies within me?
Okay I had self esteem issues as I had an abusive upbringing and bully siblings. I was born and raised in Indian middle class family. Here in India around 7-8 years ago dating and sex before marriage was considered taboo, however nowadays things has improved and people here are becoming modern. But 9 years ago when I was in college, it was not the same. On the other hand I too was very shy and lacked self confidence. When I reached 22-23 my parents started searching groom for me. My family atmosphere was so bad that I wanted to get married as soon as possible. Then at 27 my family searched groom for me and I got married with him, it was a typical Indian arranged marriage. I met him twice before engagement and talked to him and deep down I didn't liked him but I was insecured that I may not find anyone else and worried about my running age. However on meeting him and talking to him I found him good, but during courtship period I lost respect for him as he was playing immature mindgames with me & he was shallow, hypocrite two faced and non-intelligent idiot. But due to family pressure I did not dared to call off engagement. Then after marriage, I found that he has problem of premature ejaculation, as soon as he sees me naked he ejaculate. But he was touching me, kissing me and I was not enjoying. For me, it was like a task, like exercise. I had to do out of duty, but I was not enjoying at all. And when he try to have penetration and he ejaculate, Instead of feeling bad I was feeling happy deep down - like thanks god he couldn't do it. Then his family started torturing me and marriage resulted in divorce. Technically I am still virgin at 29. I have diverted my mind in other activities like job. But I am not feeling need of relationship or sex. And still due to lack of self esteem I don't like to socialize. Sometimes I feel that was it problem with me that I wasn't enjoying kissing or touching with him. I feel like Am I normal? I am now searching someone for second marriage but worried that will I enjoy sex with him.
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Are women as picky as men think they are?
I never approach girls due to my lack of confidence, which probably stems from me being shot down by every girl I have gotten close to. Now of course I don't feel I am good enough, so I don't approach girls. And I am working on that, but it still lingers in the back of my head. I don't really know what my, lack of a better word, rank is. On a scale of 1-10. I would say I am good looking, but not the hottest guy. I would say I am in good shape, but could be in better shape. I'm not where I thought I would be for my age, but see a brighter future. Should I be worried about being judge to harshly when approaching? Are women going to pick me apart?
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